This is my first journal, but I feel I really need help here, I really want and need your opinions. For the past several months I have been struggling with this "judgment" problem. One of my best friends had told me that she was tired of waiting for her "friend" (who is also a friend of mine) to leave his wife and 3 kids to have a real relationship with her. They have been friends for over 10 years. She needed to be in a relationship with a man. So, then she tells me she is "twiterpated" or in love with another friend of mine. We have been friends for over 12 years and I never knew that she was having an afair with the man. I thought they were just good friends, like we are. But evidently they had discussed him leaving his family for her. But he never did, so now she feels the clock ticking and tells him she cannot wait any longer. So I am so confused, because I am friends with both men, and her. So I do talk to the second friend, and he says he is NOT interested in a relationship with her, but they are friends, and "he can keep her at arms length." We actually had several conversations, and he assured me he was not interested and he had everything under control. My girl friend and I discussed what he told me and she knew he was not interested, but she insisted he really was, but he was hiding his true feelings for her. So this girl friend of mine kept asking me (or I should say us) over for dinner. It was always the both of us she invited. She and I have been friends for a long time, and guess how many times she invited me over for dinner.....not even once. But all of a sudden, its every Friday night she invited me and him over for dinner. Of course, becuase we are "friends". But she never invited me without him. So after several weeks, I realized she was just using me to get him over her house. We have also been going to church together. But now I see she was even just using church to be with him. I tried to explain to him how wrong she was and it turned into me sounding like the bad one here. I have lived through the "other woman" incident and believe me it ripes your heart out and turns your world inside-out and upside down. It is HORRIBLE. And the kicker is, that her husband left her for another woman, and her two kids were small. I cannot believe she would want to do the same thing to another woman and kids. And I cannot believe that my friend is like that. Now what really breaks my heart is that I cannot even talk to two people who I thought were close friends. I have lost friends, and I don't think I am the one with the evil heart, becuase she has manipulated him to think she is just great and sweet & innocent, and such as great person, etc. I am the bad one. And I really don't like how I feel about them, but in my heart I know that they are not right. Is it possible to restore the friendships, or are they gone forever?